If you find yourself in a difficult family situation and you feel like you’ve tried everything, don’t give up! These steps are designed to lighten your emotional baggage so you can move forward and heal with love and light.
Practice these steps to let love heal your family and reignite some joy.
Just as a doctor diagnoses the root problem of physical pain, identify the issue at the heart of your emotional pain. Playing detective rather than playing defensive will open your heart and mind so you can get closer to figuring out what’s actually going on.
Start by writing down how you feel - don’t think too hard just write and let it all out. Then, identify and link the event that created those emotions within you. Once you see it all laid out on paper in your own handwriting, you may be surprised by what you’ve been repressing.
Writing your feelings on paper allows you to process the charged emotions. After a good night's sleep, you'll be able to read it over with a more loving, objective and nonjudgmental observer consciousness
Befriend the Dark Lords of Past Hurts
When you try to address hurts from the past, you may realize that they have turned into a dark and heavy entity, ruling your happiness. Instead of fueling the pain by replaying the situation over and over again, release it with the following meditation.
Feel where your emotional pain is located in your body. Imagine what this pain looks like in front of you and visualize it 3-dimensionally; it can look like anything, whether it looks like a person, a drop of water, or a monster. Then find the feeling of Love in your body, whether it is in your heart or it travels through your body. Pinpoint the center of feeling that Love energy. Then amplify that feeling so it reaches all of your cells and beyond. Visualize that there is more than plenty of love for both yourself and your pain. Then shower your Love onto the pain until it is no longer in pain.
It may or may not go through different transformations in shape and emotion until its root issue feels resolved. Feel confidence that you deserve and can attain the tools to dealing with similar situations now from a healed place.
Create Space for Connection
Taking a step to verbally address an issue with a family member can be scary. You’re vulnerable and open, and your heart is on your sleeve. But this is just the place you want to be, however uncomfortable it may feel, this is where the magic happens.
In a level-headed manner, express the emotions you feel
rather than blame them for their actions. If you need, meditate on what you want to say and even practice in a mirror beforehand. You will be taken seriously when you approach with tenderness, love and peace. Before you enter into this situation, ground and feel your body's weight where it meets the ground and take a few deep breaths. Repeat the mantra, “I am here to make peace, not war. I'm sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you. I love you.”
Hug it Out
Just like the healing sound of “om” seals your yoga practice, a hug seals an emotional exchange and reinforces the bond and the love between two people. Also, research shows that hugging for 8-seconds
has incredible physical and psychological benefits! That’s a win-win!
Smile, and approach the situation with this tenderness and love.
Let love in. Let love heal. Let love lead you through a difficult situation and know that the work you put in is worth every ounce of effort.
If you’d like to practice sending love, join us every Tuesday at 1pm EST in our live event #SendGoodVibes
on Twitter where you can send love through distance healing to your family members or anyone you'd like. You can send in your request during the event or in advance, and the CYE community will send our support with positive vibes.