I personally was in a root based relationship and was eventually overcome by all the emotional outbursts. Through every step of life nothing was good enough and it wasn't long after I was married that we both began to threaten each other to leave. The stress made me insane and the communication became impossible. Everything was challenged even something as simple as grocery shopping. Today I have a partner who is so amazing so open and understanding. We give each other the space we need to grow and pursue our individual interests and come together and share our hearts and journeys. The time we spend together is priceless. I would not realize how amazing my current relationship is without having the challenging relationship I had.