Relationships are really what make life worth living. We thrive in the company of others and draw experience and inspiration as well. But relationships can also bring pain, confusion and frustration at times.
When there is a rift in a romantic, platonic or familial relationship, it can create a lot of stress and tension–which can wreak havoc on the physical, emotional and energetic bodies. There is nothing to be gained by living in this state of stress, so healing the relationship becomes the top priority in order to move on.
There is an ancient and popular Hawaiian healing method called Ho'oponopono designed to heal self and others from distressing situations.
The premise is that you use this mantra, “I Love You, I'm Sorry, Please Forgive Me, Thank You” as a method to solve disputes amongst family members, friends or romantic partners. This does not mean that you have to resume a relationship with this person, but by healing the rift, you set yourselves free to take the next step–whatever that may be.
The most beautiful thing about this healing mantra is that you never even have to say it directly to the other party if you don’t want to. Simply saying it helps you heal, which energetically can be felt by the other person.
However, you must direct some of your energy towards the other person, whether in your mind, in a letter or face-to-face. It is your choice and the results are generally the same.
How to use Ho’oponopono mantra
- First, meditate on the feeling you wish to have when the matter is resolved. Whether that be peace, clarity, love, forgiveness, or mutual separation.
Now that you’re clear on the end goal, reference the situation in your mind and recount how you and the other party got to the place you are now. What was said, done or felt that created the rift?
Consciously release all that got you here and begin chanting the mantra, aloud or in your head. Say it with intention, with gusto and with belief that it will heal you.
Repeat it as many times as you feel necessary over the course of a week. Recommended is at least 10 intentional times a day, envisioning your end goal (from #1) in your mind the entire time. After this time, reevaluate your emotional state (and the emotional state of the other party–if you’ve included them or not) and gauge the progress you’ve made.
You have the choice to say this mantra to the other party or not–but whatever you choose, do so intentionally and mindfully.
Self-love, when exercised regularly, can literally be felt by others.
Energy is a powerful force and when used to enact positive change, the entire universe conspires to help you reach your goal.
Practice this healing method with yourself and loved ones and tell us how you feel in the comments below.
“I Love You, I'm Sorry, Please Forgive Me, Thank You”