Everyone is different. We all have different backgrounds and personalities. We’ve accumulated experience and refined our ideas about ourselves and the world over time. We were also born with different bodies and brains that have unique charactristics. I was good at martial arts. Maybe you are good at drawing or organizing many projects. As many experts have said, accepting who and how you are is the first requirement for self-love and self-mastery.
The set of characteristics you may tend to label as “me” is constantly and naturally changing, however. At the root of these characteristics is an unchanging part of you
that encompasses all characteristics imaginable. It is raw potential that can be transformed into anything and is not bound by time or space. That’s why, although we were born a certain way and have had certain expriences, these do not define us, and we can change our personalities and characteritics intentionally.
If we can ultimately do and be anything, how, then, do we know what to change? What bits of you do you keep and what bits do you transform?
What’s important is knowing what you want. What is your life purpose
? What are your goals? Your answer to the question, “What do I want?” is a measuring stick for all of your choices. It also tells you which parts of you help you be, do, and have what you want, which parts do not, and which parts clearly hold you back.
Finding the answer to this question is not always easy. Knowing what you want can be elusive or confusing. To find your answer, you need clarity and focus. I would recommend:
1. Meditating to change your energy
using your favorite method until your mind and heart are clear and you feel centered, or in other words, until your lower, middle, and upper energy centers are full of pure energy, and you have Water Up, Fire Down energy flow
in your body.
2. Once you have created this ideal energy state, remain aware of your body and its energy as you ask yourself directly, “What do I want?” Keep asking until an answer comes to you. You can ask it silently in your mind or aloud. Ask with sincerity, a strong desire to know the answer, and the certainty an answer will come. Scream the question if it helps you focus and put everything you have into asking the question. Your answer may come quickly and easily, or it may take a lot of time and effort.
3. As soon as an answer pops into your mind, accept it. Doubting the answer you receive will send you into confusion and inertia. If you need further clarification, ask another question in the same way. Repeat this process until your purpose is clear to you.
Once you know your purpose, you can set goals
that will fulfill it. Then you can decide what you need to change to meet those goals. When you look at yourself and what you have, do not add emotional charge to what you see and label something as “good” or “bad.” Simply determine what is useful for your ultimate purpose dispassionately and let whatever you don’t need go.
Once you are certain of what you want from deep down inside you, you have a compass for your personal journey of change.