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Day 9: Real Goals for the Real You

Day 9 Real Goals for the Real You
"You are never too old to set another goal or dream a new dream."
—C.S. Lewis

Week 2: Courage

Now that you have spent some time getting to know yourself, what do you think of your goal? Is it something from your heart or is it something that you "think you should" want? Are you setting your goals by someone else's standard? Did you ask your friend or your partner for feedback? There is nothing wrong with running things by people you trust. It is healthy to listen to the thoughts and ideas of other peoples. However, if you want to create powerful change, it is best to listen to your own heart.

Maybe there is a dream you have had since you were a child but thought that others might consider it silly. Maybe someone told you it was silly. Fine, they are entitled to their opinion, but you cannot expect to get what you really want if you are ignoring what it is that your heart desires. In the path of creativity, a certain amount of will and self-trust is required. If you know who you really are, you can go for what you really want; and, if you go for what you truly want, then everyone around you will benefit. We each have a special gift or special role on this Earth. Remember, there is something about your presence that makes the world a brighter place. The world needs you, but it needs the real you.

Everything is energy, and this energy is constantly changing in response to your thinking. Your heart's desire emanates from love. Choosing to listen to your heart is choosing love. So, if you are choosing love, choosing to have and be what it is in your heart, you must examine your goal and be prepared to make new and more authentic choices for yourself and who you truly are. Congratulations, if your first goal fits the real you. For many, this is an important opportunity to recognize each new day as a chance to create a more fulfilling life.


Time to write again. In your journal or on your sheet of paper make a list of all of the things you really, really want. Don't judge or censor yourself. Give yourself 10 minutes to write and see what comes up.

Visualize and reflect on all of the things in your list and breathe in gratitude for each item as if it already exists.

Wherever you are, first please sit down. You can meditate in any position, but it is best for your situation to be in a position that is both relaxed and alert. To keep your back straight during meditation you may need to lean against a wall or pillow.

Pick up your LifeParticle Card (or find a digital version at ChangeYourEnergy.com); take 30 seconds to look at the LifeParticle Sun. This will help you shift your focus to what you want to achieve.

Now close your eyes; take a deep breath and slowly exhale until you empty out your lungs. Relax your shoulders and breathe like this 2 more times.

Keep your eyes closed and reflect on all of the things in your list. Relax your body and breathe in gratitude for each item.

Begin deep breathing again and with each exhale imagine something disappears from the room. Keep breathing and emptying the space around you for 2 minutes. Finish

When you are done, shake your shoulders vigorously for 30 seconds to release any remaining tension. Do you feel lighter? Now you can begin to feel free to release everything you know about your situation and get a fresh perspective.

Now say the weekly affirmation out loud. If possible, look at yourself in the mirror. I am letting go and accepting change in my life. I trust that all is flowing in accordance with my highest good.

Follow Up
Whether walking, sitting or standing, take time today to practice this technique. Relax your shoulders and take a deep breath into your chest. Keep doing this for 3 minutes. Do your best to just "listen" to what comes up in your mind; keep breathing in and exhaling slowly.

Get the motivation and inspiration to stay on track with your personal goals by taking the 2014 New Year's Resolution Challenge!

Important Practice Tips
In just 21 days, you can unlock your hidden potential and transform your habits for a more fulfilled life. With a simple combination of daily inspiration, meditation, breathing exercises and affirmations, you can achieve your goals and create the life you really want.

Try to meditate at the same time every day:
Please remember that meditation involves your body and mind. Both will respond best to a consistent practice at a regular time. You will have better results if you do this around the same time every day.

Be patient with the Healing Process:
These 21 days will be process of self-healing. The healing process means that some emotional items you identify and release may seem to intensify as you are releasing them.

Also, there may be subtle physical reactions to the emotional release such as unexpected exhaustion or mild achiness.

This message is not intended as medical advice, so please consult your healthcare practitioner with any health concerns.

Written by Temani Aldine
A man wearing many hats, Temani's background as a lawyer, writer, yoga instructor, lifelong meditation student and polyglot makes communications and marketing a good fit for him. It also makes him a one man Changeyourenergy.com embassy.
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I did this exercise again with much different results. I could see this list already here now. Yesterday I had hesitation and doubt lingering. Today I feel confidence, happiness and gratitude and everything seem so clear and bright. Your attitude really does determine your altitude!
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Enjoyed letting myself linger in the midst of my true desires, which align with who am I. Carried that feeling around with me as I shared the day with family . I saw, more than once, the irpple effect of wise, loving choice.
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Becoming the one who creates my life takes alot more focus, responsibility, and honesty then my previous existence of being a mere spectator. Creating clear goals really helps me to trust myself and become authentic towards myself and others. Today I wrote my goals but my vision was not clear the first time so I need to do this again.
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Envisioning what I truly want, reaching out to grab it, admitting that already have it... Not only do I already HAVE it, I actually AM it. This brings a peaceful kind of grounding to me that I must remember to practice daily! I am so blessed today.
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As I wrote my list, many wants popped up, professionally and personally. When I closed my eyes and focused on each one, I could clearly see myself in each of the scenarios, it was amazing! I felt grateful that I could imagine it so clearly like it had happened already. I am sure it has in an alternate universe.
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